I typically work with people over the phone but depending on the needs of the individual, I do offer Skype and in person meetings on a periodic basis.

Coaches provide emotional support to the client in terms of helping to process and manage their emotions.  Divorce coaches are additionally trained in the “business” aspect of divorce and are solution-focused.  Coaching also helps you establish effective communication with your spouse, children and legal professionals.  Therapists will support you emotionally and will often explore why you are feeling a particular emotion and how that might relate to your family of origin.  Mediators are trained in the law, and therefore, will focus on dividing the assets and preparing documents for the divorce settlement and filing.  Emotional support during the divorce process is extremely valuable because it a highly charged event.  It’s important to process the emotions appropriately so that you are less reactive.  When you are centered, communication will be more effective and so will your decision-making.

Coaches can actually save you money.  Coaching helps you manage your feelings so you can become less emotional and reactive.  The process then allows you to gain clarity and focus.   When you talk with your legal professional, instead of being overly emotional and unconsciously wanting them to offer emotional advice, you can focus strictly on business, making your time with them more efficient.   This is paramount, considering most legal professionals charge hourly rates from $300 and up, which is higher than coaching fees.  As your thinking partner, a Coach can effectively help you organize your thoughts and questions for your legal meetings.  Coaching helps you make informed decisions more efficiently, which provides a cost savings in the end.  Coaching overall can save you money, time and energy.

Pause and breathe.  Yes, breathe.  You made a big decision, which takes a lot of energy   and courage. The next thing to address is how you want to communicate that to your spouse, if you haven’t done so already.  It’s important to think about how you would like to proceed with researching options for legal representation. Contact me to schedule a complimentary session to learn more about how my services can help you.

Yes, I do offer on site support and can make the trip with you.  I can also attend meetings with your other professionals such as attorneys, financial planners, etc. However, because of legal confidentiality you will have to clear it with them first.  I can also wait in another area of the office while you meet behind closed doors.

It’s important to keep their age in mind when discussing these matters.  You will need to address it according to their unique developmental stage, which corresponds to their age. However, keeping it simple is best.  You want to be honest, but it’s important not to give them too much information upfront until you have come to specific decisions yourself.  Children fair best when they are not exposed to conflict and drama between their parents. It’s important to keep in mind that a child needs to remain being a child.  They are not meant to be a parent’s confidant.  This happens more frequently when a parent doesn’t have enough emotional support.  That’s why having a good support system is essential because it allows you to be a better parent.  Hiring a coach or a therapist helps to relieve your burden. If you have deeper concerns about your children, you might want to discuss them with a child’s therapist.

This is a legal question, and since I don’t provide legal advice, I would suggest that you ask a legal professional about this topic. However, I can discuss this further in terms of how you feel about this issue.  Then I can help you sort out your options so that you can make informed decisions about your housing and lifestyle.